Positive Control

               

  Positive Control

   The positive control of a winner is acceptance of full responsibility for causing the effects in his/her life. Winners know that barring congenital faults, self and positive control is the key to both mental, physical health and can contribute enormously to total being. They take the credit for determining, creating, making their own place in the world.

    You are on the driver seat in your own life. In many respects, you have exerted control since you were born and cried for milk and a dry diaper. You can learn how to respond and adapt more successfully to the stresses in life by accepting responsibility today for causing your own effects. You alone hold the key to your reactions to people who want to rain on you.

   Remember, it's not so much "what happens" that counts in life, it's "how you take it" that counts. The real essence of positive control is that nearly everything in life is volitional and that each of us has many more choices and alternatives than we are willing to consider. We have even control over certain body functions that we thought were involuntary.  A winner says: "I take the credit or the blame for my performance." Losers say: "I can't understand why life did this to me.

   Meditation Satguru Archna Didi teaches us the following action plan:

    1. Take the blame and the credit for your position in life honestly and openly.

    2. In place of "I have to" use "I have decided to". In place of "I am afraid to" use "I am more comfortable doing this.

   3. Learn how to relax mentally and physically.

   4. Set a specific time-frame each week to initiate action letters and action calls on your own behalf. If someone has not responded for a letter from you within two weeks, send a reminder or follow up or a phone call. If there is still no response, take an alternative approach with someone else.

   5. Carry another motto with you and make it part of your life. Action "TNT" (Today Not Tomorrow).

   6. Sit down and list positive alternatives of habits that you seriously want to change.

    7. Your company cares, your family cares but your job does not care. Only you can take the initiative to give your job what it has deserved all along. Give your maximum effort to your job, your company, your routine and your services to the others.  Renew your dedications for another month.

   8. Invest in your knowledge and skill development. It is said, "if an individual emptied his purse into his head, no one can take it from him."

   9. Set your alarm-clock a half-hour early tomorrow morning and leave it at the earlier setting. Use this extra half-hour of your life to wake up and live. Use this time to answer the question, how can I best spend my time today on priorities that are important to me.